Concepts about brain resistance to change - Dr. Joe Dispenza

I think they're more common than we often realise @Oaktree. I feel honoured to be "twinning" with you! Speaking to other people and finding out that I'm not alone with this stuff has been one of the most important parts of my recovery journey.

Is there a thing / area that you feel your brain is resisting the most?

@0ddsidian

I would say housework.

I did clear and clean the kitchen bench and the sink on the weekend though. My bathroom is beyond help. It needs complete renovation

@ccau_82

My lecturer is going to show this video in our wellbeing class tomorrow. I told her that it was transformative

Sorry I sent a post I'm very not happy with.

One it was unenpathetic to actually studying Joe Dispara

Two I used ai for parts of it

Three I'm quite sick and I went on.

Sorry

I find it really tough to clean.

I have tantrums on my husband but haven't since iv don't trauma therapy.

( Not long )

I have no energy to do my artwork

@Oaktree @ccau_82 @0ddsidian

Hey @ccau_82 @thanks for sharing

it was interesting reading what @Oaktree, @0ddsidian and you were talking about embodied knowledge.

I used to work with a very wise person who spoke about three knowledges - head knowledge (our intellectual knowing), our heart knowledge (the things we know because we feel them) and our gut knowledge - the things you can’t explain but just know. I refer to that gut knowledge as my spidey sense.

When thinking about this, I reflect it’s important to acknowledge all the different parts of ourselves that teach us and to understand when something internal or external is maybe making us listen to one source over another.

Thinking about shame - it’s such a powerful emotion that it drowns out those other kinds of knowing so it makes sense

Proud of you @Oaktree 😊 I try to remind myself to aim for functional, over perfection. As long as I can do the things I NEED to do in my space then I can breathe.

@PeppyPatti

I did read through your initial post, and I definitely didn't perceive it as unempathetic or see any issues with it, but totally understand that you wanted to change it. That's absolutely your choice, but please don't apologise. I enjoyed reading it.

You made a point about relational healing (in your first post), which is something that I'm really interested in. Would you feel comfortable talking more about that?

I've been learning more about my own attachment wounds and attachment style and how this links with my inner child. We actually spoke about it briefly in a group on Wednesday.

My attachment wounds have made relationships (not just romantic ones) challenging. Part of that relates to my childhood as the daughter of a veteran. We moved around a lot. I couldn't maintain any friendships (because we moved) and this is still challenging for me today. My parents weren't consistent in their parenting and support. I'm now working on healing through relationships, with a lot of the people in my life (family, friends, my partner).

I like doing art too. I have almost no energy to do it most of the time. It makes me feel sad sometimes. I wonder if I'm putting too much pressure on myself to HAVE to do art, or that I'm being too hard on myself. What do you think?

I love the way you've described the three knowledges @Magpie22! Do you think one of your "knowledges" is louder / more dominant than the others? Mine is definitely the "head knowledge", but I'm also very intuitive, so my "gut knowledge" is probably quietly strong.

I don't know if one exists already, but I wonder if a thread about shame could be really beneficial?

@Oaktree @ccau_82