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Wind-down Wednesdays

Wind-down Wednesdays

Welcome to Wind-down Wednesdays where we work through a new grounding or soothing tool on every third Wednesday! 🌺

The purpose of this thread is

  • To learn more about various grounding/soothing strategies (can add them into your self-care toolbox)
  • To understand why we do it and how it works in calming us down
  • To create a safe space for members to visit whenever they need to wind down and catch their breath. You can work on the strategy by yourself here, or tag community members to join you (please be mindful of our guidelines - remember that members may not always respond immediately, and let’s not place pressure on others to respond)
  • Promote self-care and self-reliance in regulating your emotions!

Got a grounding tool/soothing strategy you’d like to share on this thread? Email us (team@saneforums.org) to let us know and we’ll save you a Wednesday slot! 😊

The first grounding tool we’ll be exploring is the 3-3-3 technique.

3-3-3:

  • Name 3 things you see: scan the space around you. For each item you identify, really focus on the details of it – what colour is it? Is it heavy or light? Big or small? What’s the texture of the object?
  • Name 3 things you hear: what are some sounds near you or far from you, are they soft or loud? Listen closely to identify them.
  • Move 3 parts of your body: it can be light or dramatic movements such as slowly rolling your shoulders, clenching and unclenching your fists, wiggling your fingers and toes, jumping up and down, shaking your wrists, etc.

So how does this work?

Well, when we’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed, it can sometimes trigger a stress response where our body’s fight-flight-freeze system is activated, which you can learn more about here: The Four 'F' Trauma Responses - SANE Forums.

This system is typically activated when our body identifies a physical threat, our body enters a heightened state of arousal to help survive – this can look like increased heart rate, increased muscle tension, decreased appetite, etc. When our anxious thoughts keep activating this heightened state of arousal, it can lead to a very dysregulated nervous system where our bodies keep reacting out of proportion to the threat, making it hard to calm down.

Moving our focus from internal things (like anxious thoughts/feelings) to external things (like what we can see/hear), helps us slow things down and calm the stress response. It gives our body a chance to focus on things that it perceived as non-threatening (i.e. identifying a cup or a bird flying around), which gives our body a chance to slowly calm down.

Practicing grounding techniques regularly can help regulate the nervous system with time. For more information, feel free to read this article: 3-3-3 Rule for Anxiety: How to Use, Scientific Basis, Other Coping Strategies

Now let’s give it a go! Feel free to share the 3 things you saw, heard and the 3 body parts you moved – and any other reflections you’d like to add.

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@rav3n Thanks for tagging me, I've tried the 3 by 3 by 3, but it wasn't for me, it was only an immediate distraction, and my mind continued shortly afterwards.

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Appreciate it 💙 @StuF

that's very fair @Former-Member we'll look into new ones each fortnight, hopefully we can explore some that work a bit longer term too 💙

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@MissGremlin ooo that jar of stars sounds lovely! great work with the first '3', now let's look into 3 things you can hear...

sometimes closing my eyes helps me 'hear' better haha, so feel free to do that. take your time with it.

are these sounds close by or distant? is it rhythmic or random? do you find it soothing or harsh?

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@rav3n I'll have to see if I can get some pics of the stars and post it in the hobbies thread.

I can hear my music which is a combination of both relaxing songs and also songs that make you wanna move around.

I can hear my heart pounding, it's very loud and I can feel it in my head.

I can hear my birdie quietly nibbling away at his seed.

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Thanks for inviting me @rav3n


3 things I can see

- cat scratch ing which is moderate weight and mainly covered in carpet

- rug beside me on the cough, soft to the touch, light

- floor below my feet, giving me solid and stable surface to walk on

3 part of the body

- shoulder, spine, neck

things I can hear

- reverse cycle aircon trying to warm this place

- prior to turning on aircon was sound of silence
- alarm alert on my phone

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yes would love to see it! @MissGremlin i hear a lil birdie too! it's chirping softly. i hear my laptop overheating and i can hear the tapping of my keyboard, which i find satisfying.

now for the final part... let's move 3 body parts.

they can be gentle movements or big ones (such as wiggling fingers/toes, rolling your shoulders, fluttering your feet, etc)

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appreciate you sharing @Former-Member, hope this lil exercise provided a lil pause in your day 💙

reading about the sounds you heard just made me realise that my heaters been on and its making a sound too! so weird, i didn't notice the sound of the heater until right now even though its been on for a couple mins.

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@rav3n i like the sound of keyboards tapping.

I wiggled my fingers and rolled my wrists.

I tapped my feet on the ground.

And I rolled my head around to stretch my neck.

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i know its different to the ones we've done before, how do you feel about this one? so proud of you for giving this a go @MissGremlin!

also i gotta hop off now, so i'll catch you tomorrow. take care 💙

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@rav3n it was helping until I got a message to say that someone from NDIS was going to call my within the next hour, now my stomach is in knots.

Thankyou for going through it with me, i think I'll definitely be using this one again though cos it was helping until that.

Hope you have a good night ❤️

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