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Wind-down Wednesdays

Wind-down Wednesdays

Welcome to Wind-down Wednesdays where we work through a new grounding or soothing tool on every third Wednesday! 🌺

The purpose of this thread is

  • To learn more about various grounding/soothing strategies (can add them into your self-care toolbox)
  • To understand why we do it and how it works in calming us down
  • To create a safe space for members to visit whenever they need to wind down and catch their breath. You can work on the strategy by yourself here, or tag community members to join you (please be mindful of our guidelines - remember that members may not always respond immediately, and let’s not place pressure on others to respond)
  • Promote self-care and self-reliance in regulating your emotions!

Got a grounding tool/soothing strategy you’d like to share on this thread? Email us (team@saneforums.org) to let us know and we’ll save you a Wednesday slot! 😊

The first grounding tool we’ll be exploring is the 3-3-3 technique.

3-3-3:

  • Name 3 things you see: scan the space around you. For each item you identify, really focus on the details of it – what colour is it? Is it heavy or light? Big or small? What’s the texture of the object?
  • Name 3 things you hear: what are some sounds near you or far from you, are they soft or loud? Listen closely to identify them.
  • Move 3 parts of your body: it can be light or dramatic movements such as slowly rolling your shoulders, clenching and unclenching your fists, wiggling your fingers and toes, jumping up and down, shaking your wrists, etc.

So how does this work?

Well, when we’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed, it can sometimes trigger a stress response where our body’s fight-flight-freeze system is activated, which you can learn more about here: The Four 'F' Trauma Responses - SANE Forums.

This system is typically activated when our body identifies a physical threat, our body enters a heightened state of arousal to help survive – this can look like increased heart rate, increased muscle tension, decreased appetite, etc. When our anxious thoughts keep activating this heightened state of arousal, it can lead to a very dysregulated nervous system where our bodies keep reacting out of proportion to the threat, making it hard to calm down.

Moving our focus from internal things (like anxious thoughts/feelings) to external things (like what we can see/hear), helps us slow things down and calm the stress response. It gives our body a chance to focus on things that it perceived as non-threatening (i.e. identifying a cup or a bird flying around), which gives our body a chance to slowly calm down.

Practicing grounding techniques regularly can help regulate the nervous system with time. For more information, feel free to read this article: 3-3-3 Rule for Anxiety: How to Use, Scientific Basis, Other Coping Strategies

Now let’s give it a go! Feel free to share the 3 things you saw, heard and the 3 body parts you moved – and any other reflections you’d like to add.

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tagging some members here, feel free to tag anyone else who might be interested! would love to hear how the 3-3-3 technique went for you. we'll explore a new grounding technique in a fortnight 😊

@MissGremlin @NightFury @Cuddlebear @Shaz51 @Snowie @Bow @Sunnyside226 @Former-Member @Micky61 @Lowie @Asuka_02 @oceangirl @Appleblossom @Till23 @Jellybeans25 @Oaktree @Clawde @Former-Member @Blackcloud @Judi9877 @Emelia8 @Eve7 @outlander @Captain24 @ENKELI @Healandlove @TAB @Meowmy @StanD @StuF @Bill16 @Dimity @avant-garde @The-red-centaur + anyone else i've missed!

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@rav3n Thank you. I like that we can do this wherever we are. I’m stuck in flight / fight all the time. It’s driving me nuts.

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@rav3n hey Ravin, hope you're well

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hope you're well too @Meowmy 💙

i hear youuu @Cuddlebear it's so frustrating and exhausting!! please feel free to jump into this space whenever you need 💙

we can run through the 3-3-3 together now too if you'd like? no pressure ofc, you're welcome to come back and do it at another time too 😊

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@rav3n thankyou for sharing this. I want to give it a go but just not even sure i have it in me right now. Focusing is not exactly coming easily at the moment.

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no stress, take your time. this space will always be here when you're ready 💙 @MissGremlin

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@rav3n would you mind running through it with me please?

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Thanks for the tag @rav3n

A good initiative

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absolutely!! @MissGremlin, i'll also tag @Cuddlebear @Sunnyside226 in case they wanna join - no pressure of course.

let's start off by sitting or lying down in a space that feels comfy for you. it can be the floor, on the bed, on a chair, etc. i'll be sitting on a chair for this round, but usually i like lying down.

now let's scan around the room... what's 3 things you can see?

does it look light/heavy/big/small? what's the colour or texture like?

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@rav3n thankyou ❤️.

Ok I'm sitting down in my chair at my table.

I can see some little jars with lots of lucky stars in them that I made a while ago. There's different coloured and textured ones, some glow in the dark, some are sparkly, some have patterns on them.

There's some large moth wings on my wall that look very light and delicate.

There's my weighted stitch teddy, he's rather big and he is heavy. But he is soft, fluffy and nice to cuddle and he has a little tuft of hair on his head.

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