Relationships - Why are they so hard?

Hi @NikNaks,

Thank you for sharing so openly about something that sounds both painful and exhausting to live with

You might find it helpful to work with a mental health professional on skills for managing strong emotions and relationship fears. Approaches such as DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) can be particularly helpful for many people, if you haven’t tried this already. In the meantime, when you notice the urge to text or check in repeatedly, even a brief pause to ground yourself or do something soothing before acting can sometimes help create a little space to choose how you want to respond

What does your support network look like right now? Do you have a psychologist, psychiatrist or GP supporting you?

If you’re looking for additional support, you may also find SANE Recovery Club Program helpful, which offers free one-to-one support with a psychosocial facilitator. Relationships Australia may also be a helpful option for support around relationships and communication

You’re definitely not alone in experiencing this, and I’m glad you reached out here. I hope you find this space supportive and that other members can share what has helped them too 💛

Hello @NikNaks I wholeheartedly support everything @Nala2022 has said in her (I think) post.

You can always find support here in this safe place.

I wish you well. Go gently @Taali ✨️

I have heard good things about DBT treatment for these type of things. Helps you catch yourself and how to break the cycles. I believe there are some places that have in person support groups like love addicts anonymous that also help by seeing how others have helped themselves.

also talking openly with your favourite person about what might help you feel equal and safe in the relationship. So you know what the parameters are.

I hope you find the support everyone deserves to feel understood.

Hi

I can relate. Because I am autistic and bipolar I think back on how hard it has been. To give hope, I notice there's been a lot of research recently into this space. To remind me that there isn't something wrong with me per se but all those things like emotional attachment, dysregulation and mood that plays a role means it can be ridiculously hard. But at the same time there is so much insight into that. Society hopefully will be a bit kinder in the future into the myriad of dynamics at play.

I have been misdiagnosed as schizoid-typal, paranoid-personality and even BPD too but I think it says a lot more about the psychiatrist than it does about my life and my choices (good and bad).

These days I accept life can be harder but I tend to focus on the relationships that sustain me because people do accept who I am. Rather than add labels, maybe it's better to focus on the diversity of the human experience? I wish you well. You are not alone.

hello im new here

im feeling same as you

im still struggle too

I hope you doing okay