WretchedKid Senior Contributor
Setting Boundaries In A Crossfire
To make a long story short, I come from an abusive family, estranged myself for my own protection and have a common link between them and myself.
Said common link (a person) has been passing over items from these family members for a very long time. I already set the boundary to be not contacted or harassed, but they continue regardless.
I find any communication distressing as they have been the serious cause of my lack of safety in the past. I've spoken to the "mediator" about throwing things away or rejecting things, but said person has been handing things over despite my request.
Obviously, no one is respecting my boundaries. I can forgive the common link because they're stuck in the crossfire and it's an unfortunate and unfair position to put them in.
Sadly, this isn't moderate family drama due to aforementioned safety issues, which is why I hoped they could go an extra mile to help me keep separated.
I wanted people's opinions on the situation, what they'd do and if they have any advice? This is an ongoing problem and at this point, I'm considering an AVO or similar, but that's messy and complicated enough.