Chronic Jealousy, emotional abuse & control issues

@LaggingInLife I have C-ptsd and SSRIs weren't doing much to help me, so I was switched to a SNRI [edited by moderator] which has been far more effective for me.

I know it may not be best for you because one size doesn't fit all, but it might be worth talking to your doctor.

I would also recommend lessening your alcohol intake, alcohol is a depressant and will only make you feel worse. I understand the temptation to lose yourself in the oblivion of a bottle, but it genuinely just pushes all the things your struggling with to a later day. I learned this the hard way after my ex cheated and dumped me, the drinking just slowed down my healing journey.

I would also maybe try to have a conversation with your partner about your feelings around porn, how it makes you feel inadequate, insecure and anxious. Plan it out if you need to, have a trusted person do a mock talk with you.

Most importantly try to be kind to yourself, you deserve understanding, love and compassion ❤️

@Jynx i don't barely feel comfortable recommending practitioners to anyone, unless its someone my psychiatrist or GP highly recommends - then i feel like - at least no harm can be done (My GP is my guiding light) but re my own "vibe" - i could be very off. Unfortnatley also in the private space there is money involved, and you do see ppl recommending their friends. In addition, ppl experience transference, even in the psych ward a lot of ppl are very postiively inclined towards their own doctor, which may be because the dr is good, or may just be how grateful humans are to anyone who is there for them. Its too sensitive, i wouldn't be able to access that someone is truly in safe hands unless i knew for sure i was being objective - which is hard. But a post was up recently asking for a review of a psych ward, and that was very confusing to me, as mods were asking us to share if we'd been there.

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