Please tell me this gets better - self harm, suicidal teen

Hey @Cocoarrarra

Sorry to hear about your situation. Do you have any idea of what the pain is that she is avoiding by doing Self Harm? Does she feel safe to be vulnerable and does she understand feelings of shame and guilt do you think?

I ask because shame can give powerful motivations towards toxic behaviours if a person cannot feel they can be vulnerable to that shame.

I can identify with your stressful situation, I was suicidal at 15/16 years old, thankfully got help from psychiatrists at Rivendell Adolescent Unit, Concord.

I am sorry to hear you are ALL going through this.

Can i just say how much of an amazing mother you really are and how strong you are supporting your duaghter thourgh this there will come a time she will be so very thankful. (My mother did the same for me but i was a lot younger i owe that women mylife)

Hold your daughter hold her tight and cry together please tell your daughter just how incredibly strong she really is to make it just how far she has and what a woderful story of life she has to share with the world once she is ready. The best thing you can offer is be open and raw with your communitcate with her let her know that your all there for her with what ever she needs. Maintain her regualr doctors and loads of sunshine vitium d will ake her feel better

I've been learning about "protective factors". I find it kind of helpful to look at them together on a list. It takes a village of people and protective factors. Here's a list i got from the

• Effective behavioral health care
• Connectedness to individuals, family, community, and social institutions
• Life skills (including problem solving skills and coping skills, ability to adapt to change)
• Self-esteem and a sense of purpose or meaning in life
• Cultural, religious, or personal beliefs that discourage suicide "

Everyone's different but factors like these get the numbers.